Let’s talk about celebrating romantic love.  Specifically, celebrating what psychologist Dorothy Tennov named “limerence.† This is a state of falling in love,  characterized by obsessive thoughts, intense longing, and delirious bliss when thinking of the beloved.   New lovers lean into each other, pay passionate attention, adore each other, feel their hearts bursting,  and their spirits skipping […]
Before the election,  I was writing a response to a question about the ifs, whens, and hows of “casual sex.† A woman planning an Olivia cruise wondered if she could enjoy a shipboard sexual encounter, without dire emotional consequences.  It’s a valid question, worth being thoughtful about. But then we had this election, and that […]
Soon after a wonderful woman comes into your life, you may notice a phenomenon unique to our lesbian world.  She’s still good friends with her ex-partner, and likes to hang out with her and include her in friend gatherings. We have a lot of mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, it’s wonderful to […]
The key word in this title is “Decide† This is different from “get swept away,†“fall into bed,† “go with the flow,†or other versions of the fantasy that sexual desire just overcomes you and suddenly,  spontaneously, there you are!  To decide is to be intentional, and responsible, about a significant step in a new […]
Q. My problem with dating is that I don’t know how to end it.  Last time I went out with someone, I knew after the first date that I wasn’t attracted to her…but she acted so interested and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings, so I went out with her for several weeks. We […]
After months of obsessing, Sally had finally scheduled her first date.  She was interested in someone on a dating website, “chatted†a few times online, and set up a lunch meeting.  I was impressed with her enthusiasm…but then  she started thinking out loud. Sally’s date-to-be lived near a lake, and  Sally had a boat.  “Maybe […]
Because dating is such a hot topic, I’ve decided to interview women about their dating experiences. Apparently 53% of all American women, including lesbians,  are single–and many of these are interested in having a romantic relationship.  Dating is an excellent way to get there.  So I’m asking about good and bad experiences, mistakes made, lessons […]
The woman in my office was in tears.  She’d just had a romantic Valentine’s Day celebration with someone she’d been seeing for the past year.  They had talked about the thrill of finding each other, the joy in their intimate connection, the excitement about sharing their lives.  It sounded just like being in love.  So […]
While looking for the best gifts during this holiday season, don’t forget a very special one — sexuality.   Even if it’s been in the lost-and-found, it’s never too late to re-claim yours.   Unwrap this wonderful gift, and you’ll remember how this touches your body and heart and soul.  And the best part is, it grows […]
By now you’ve probably heard about “the new female Viagraâ€:  Flibanserin, marketed under the name Addyi, promising to deliver sexual desire in pill form. The pharmaceutical company had a clever marketing slogan: Women deserve equal treatment for sexual issues. Who could argue with that? And could this be the magic pill that moves two women […]
Hang on, it's going to be a wild ride!
Robin
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