The key word in this title is “Decide† This is different from “get swept away,†“fall into bed,† “go with the flow,†or other versions of the fantasy that sexual desire just overcomes you and suddenly,  spontaneously, there you are!  To decide is to be intentional, and responsible, about a significant step in a new […]
Q. My problem with dating is that I don’t know how to end it.  Last time I went out with someone, I knew after the first date that I wasn’t attracted to her…but she acted so interested and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings, so I went out with her for several weeks. We […]
Why are lesbians so often drawn to vaguely disinterested women? I am biting my lip, surrounded by UConn fans in a packed basketball stadium. I find myself watching the women’s basketball final four amidst thousands of other fans in the city I used to call home. As I watch on in angst as my dear […]
After months of obsessing, Sally had finally scheduled her first date.  She was interested in someone on a dating website, “chatted†a few times online, and set up a lunch meeting.  I was impressed with her enthusiasm…but then  she started thinking out loud. Sally’s date-to-be lived near a lake, and  Sally had a boat.  “Maybe […]
Because dating is such a hot topic, I’ve decided to interview women about their dating experiences. Apparently 53% of all American women, including lesbians,  are single–and many of these are interested in having a romantic relationship.  Dating is an excellent way to get there.  So I’m asking about good and bad experiences, mistakes made, lessons […]
I am sitting across the table over wine with friends as we discuss how to know when a relationship is over. We share stories of staying too long in relationships when we didn’t know how to know the difference between normal relationship problems, and problems that indicate it’s over. I find myself joking, “Someone should […]
The woman in my office was in tears.  She’d just had a romantic Valentine’s Day celebration with someone she’d been seeing for the past year.  They had talked about the thrill of finding each other, the joy in their intimate connection, the excitement about sharing their lives.  It sounded just like being in love.  So […]
I pull into the parking lot in front of the bar one Saturday night. Rain floods the lot, leaving an inch of standing water everywhere. I put the car in park, leaving the engine running. Windshield wipers going crazy, I sit for a moment, peering out of the drenched, fogged-up glass toward the bar entrance. […]
While looking for the best gifts during this holiday season, don’t forget a very special one — sexuality.   Even if it’s been in the lost-and-found, it’s never too late to re-claim yours.   Unwrap this wonderful gift, and you’ll remember how this touches your body and heart and soul.  And the best part is, it grows […]
For the past hour, I have been sitting on my wood floor, legs splayed about to make room for the bookcase pieces I’m attempting to combine. I stare numbly at the half-put together jumble of particleboard and Swedish instructions in front of me, realizing that half the shelves are facing forward, and half are facing […]
Hang on, it's going to be a wild ride!
Robin
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